Before I begin, I must admit; this particular piece undertook quite a bit of editing from the time I wrote it last week to now. This week I had to reassess my tone, my diction, and my wording because I was too passionate. I know what you’re thinking, “What’s wrong with having passion?”. Passion is a fuel that can keep you going on a day when you’re running the lowest, but it is often misinterpreted as anger or aggression. This brings us here today as I fairly and impartially discuss an imperative focal point with a central topic at hand.
There was a post circulating on the most popular apps (Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter) that said: "Be his peace, he already has enough pain". Well, this caught fire as meme’s do and ladies began to recirculate the meme with a negative connotation after a man asks a woman to be his peace and men retaliated with their own versions:
Him: Be my peace.
Me: (The meme shows something violent from a memorable black movie).
The Ladies absolutely hate it and if you see through their eyes, you would hate it too. Let's get deep for just a second; real deep. My mom is a rock. A strong, un-shaking, un-moving, human personification of what a mom, a woman is. She has an answer for every question and knows how to help you with every problem you may stumble upon in life. Most people are fortunate enough to say that they have a mom similar to mine. That was your example of a woman growing up and when you have kids you want yourself or you want to find a woman to be to your kids what your mom was to you. As a society we cast women in the “fixer” “doer” “be-er” role, so when men grow up and say things like they want us to be their peace; it makes sense. I understand where it comes from.
After conducting multiple conversations with my male counterparts over the last week I’ve figured out why men like the “Be my peace” phrase so much. When they say it they mean “Be my warmth in this cold world”, “Have my back”, “Don’t let me work an 8 hour shift then have to come home to you yelling and acting crazy” “ Let me find comfort in you after a long day” “Let me want to rush home to you to restore myself”. As a young woman, and I believe other females feel the same; When I hear it, I hear “Fix me”, “Come let me bring all my baggage into your life that I didn’t heal before pursuing you”, “Come and share my pain and in exchange I’ll leave you with some of it.” My point is, we don’t think the same way. Miscommunication is the biggest cause of misunderstandings between people of any kind.
With the air being clear, I don’t believe anyone should be in a relationship with anyone that doesn’t add value to their life. You should always strive to be each other’s peace every single day because despite popular belief, going through a storm with someone who’ll be your extra eyes and ears is always better than going in alone. If you're your own peace and I am mine, there's no way that we can bring negativity to light that will corrupt the peaceful aura we have set with each other because our souls are right with our own person. What I'm trying to tell you is, be so emotionally stable that you can be your own peace after a long hard day of battling the many faces of the world.
That’s all I have for you kids today, please leave a comment. I’m extremely interested in hearing your opinion.